Today’s blog
03/03/2025

Lynn Murphy Mark
A golden thread
In 1958 folk singer and activist Pete Seeger wrote a simple song that carried a sweet message: “Oh, had I a golden thread, and a needle so fine, I would weave a magic spell of rainbow design.” He also recorded the hymn, “We shall overcome”. It became an iconic civil rights anthem.
I first heard “golden thread” sung by Eva Cassidy, a songbird who made her transition at age 33, taken down by melanoma. A few decades ago, Katie introduced me to her. Katie heard her on a radio station, was taken by her clear, pure voice, and told me to look into her music. Not only did I look and listen, I was completely taken. Today I have a collection of three of her albums released after her untimely death.
Eva Cassidy was a shy person and had to overcome her nerves each time she appeared to perform. The magazine, Jazz Times, says this: “Cassidy was no diva, she didn’t overload the songs with vocal gymnastics and stratospheric notes. Quite the opposite, she detached the songs from their genre associations so each became a kind of folk-blues-jazz hybrid. She pared them down to their emotional core… As important as her calm, unfussy phrasing was the tone of her mezzo voice – so glowing and disarming that she seemed to be confiding in each individual listener.”
Yesterday I was at my weekly meeting. It has become a gem in my self-care jewelry box and I consider my companions to be a family of sorts. We are all gathered with the intention of improving ourselves and the hope that we each will make a difference in our respective worlds.
Every week we have a visitor or two. Sometimes it’s a person newly on a recovery track. Yesterday’s meeting was attended by a first-timer. I watched him as he appeared to absorb what people were saying – he looked very carefully at each speaker and nodded his head sometimes. We had a couple of visitors from other meetings who pledged to come back next week.
We are an unusual looking family. There is no resemblance among our physical features but we are brothers and sisters all the same. It is a meeting where sharing “experience, strength, and hope” with each other is mostly the point. It is a place where all are accepted, regardless of circumstances. To quote another folk song, “you don’t need a ticket just to get on board”. Getting on board may be the greatest challenge someone has faced. There is no better, safer place to expose our inner workings, our troubles, and our triumphs.
We are each held safely by the structure of a series of life-saving steps. The readings are the same every meeting and I have almost memorized some of them. The words are encouraging and hopeful, but there is definitely work involved to achieve them. There is an expectation that we will look at ourselves honestly and dispense with the behaviors we used to cover our afflictions. Part of the process is to give away the secrets that bind us so tightly. There is no better place to get out of harm’s way. There is no better place to feel a change coming over me.
Yesterday our meeting was a mixture of the usual folks, some visitors, and a couple of new people. We come in all shapes and sizes. I looked around the room when the meeting was almost over and felt the presence of a “golden thread” reaching from heart to heart in that room. Eva Cassidy’s voice singing the song echoed in my musical midbrain and I know there is a precious connection with each person in the room.
